I don’t like sexuality, especially human sexuality, in the least, and here are some reasons why:
- I don’t want to think of females as being different from males. Sure, in some ways they are different. However, what I’m referring to is things not determined by their sex, but by rather by social norms. Females do not like pink, they do not wear dresses or skirts, they do not like dolls, they are not unintelligent, and they do not have other stereotypically “girlie” qualities. The same goes for males; their actions are not merely the result of the sex they were born with. That isn’t to say there aren’t males or females who adhere to various stereotypes, but instead that being male or female does not necessarily mean one will act a certain way.
- You may be thinking I could just be bi/pansexual then. I am heterosexual, and I can’t exactly choose to be attracted to males. Just the idea makes me cringe. Aside from that, there are other reasons I’m opposed to sexuality. Namely, I don’t want to let my body’s desire to reproduce control how I treat or think of others.
There are a few more reasons, and I’ll probably expand it later. For now, this should be enough. 
If you wish to contest what I think, please leave a comment as to why you disagree. It’s much easier to explain my view if someone is arguing against me than it is for me to just provide a list of reasons when I’m not aware of what objections people might have.
Update, 2008-06-28: I wasn’t clear at all when I wrote this originally, so I’ll try to be more clear now. I might add more to it later… again. We’ll see. 
- The only use pleasure has is to cause unintelligent beings to do things such as eating and making babies. Now that we are intelligent enough to know why we feel the way we do, we shouldn’t let our feelings control us. People should eat to keep themselves alive and reproduce to have children. We shouldn’t need primitive urges that cause us to act without regard to reason. That’s why overeating and sexual harassment exist in our society, for example.
- Human sexuality leads to people treating and thinking of other people differently based on the sex they happened to be born with, i.e., sexism. As stated above, I don’t want to treat males any differently than females or females any differently than males. As far as I’m concerned, the sex I just happened to be born with isn’t a part of “me”.
Note, 2008-07-30: I will, hopefully, turn this into a coherent post in the near future. I’m planning on using the comments from here and elsewhere to write the new post, so thanks for all the critiques everyone!
Do you conflate romance and sex, or are they separate spheres? In other words, would you date someone without the possibility of sex, or is dating part of the underlying problem?
Yes it is. I’m talking about human sexuality in general, not just sex. The innate desire to reproduce is what drives people to date. It’s also what drives homosexuals, even though there isn’t the possibility of having children through sex.
First, your new avatar picture is pretty cool.
Second, there’s a song my chorus used to perform called “Everything Possible“, by the Flirtations. Check out the lyrics. The refrain is what I’m thinking of…
That might apply.
I don’t really see what that has to do with my argument. :\
Then, explain. As I said, I can’t understand….
You need to tell me what it is you don’t understand exactly.
It’s great for the economy though.
I see your point.
I can’t understand why you want to live a loveless life. It’s sad…
So I followed your link from ( [link removed] ) in regards to why you were set on not ever having a “first time”, and I’m not entirely sure I understand, even after reading this.
What does society projecting gender roles onto people have to do with you personally not having sex?
Tama, no, not really. I posted my reasons, so I don’t see what there is not to understand. Besides, I have many great friends (both male and female) who can keep me company instead.
Jyuu, I’ll clarify what I was trying to say. Heterosexual males like females simply because they’re females. I can’t accept thinking differently of females just because my body instinctively wants to have children. While I might think differently of females anyway, I’m going to try my best not to. Sorry, I kind of got off-topic when I was writing that originally…
” Females do not like pink, they do not wear dresses or skirts, they do not like dolls, they are not unintelligent, and they do not have other stereotypically “girlie” qualities. The same goes for males; their actions are not merely the result of the sex they were born with. That isn’t to say there aren’t males or females who adhere to various stereotypes, but instead that being male or female does not necessarily mean one will act a certain way.”
Get out of the 50’s. No one makes these assumptions anymore. And the people who do are regarded as uneducated. That’s no reason to be asexual. I don’t think you have a strong grasp on sexuality. You’re heterosexual, through and through, you’re just not a fan of heteronormativity. Welcome to the 21st century.
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What are you talking about? Sexism is incredibly pervasive in our society. In practically all stories, movies, etc. females are treated as lesser than males. Who saves the princess/girl in trouble? Some male hero. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a story where a female saves a female or a male; at the very least those are pretty rare. Just to take a recent example of some explicit sexism, in the anime I’m watching currently called Reborn! the guys go out and fight while the girls stay back at the base and cook because they’re useless. Is it just a coincidence that the females happen to be the only ones who don’t fight? I doubt it. People should be judged, if judged at all, on their individual merits, and yet this sexism is all over the place. It really pisses me off.
However, that’s not the main reason I dislike sexuality. It has a lot to do with not wanting to think differently of certain people (females) because of a primitive desire to make babies. You’re right though, I’m not asexual. However, I would be if I could choose to be.
I can understand your displeasure with the prominent (though frequently latent) sexism in our society, but dismissing reproduction in general is downright retarded. Humans are not excused from the rules of life; we live to pass on our genes and then we die. Regardless of your own existential philosophies, the legacy encoded in our DNA is the sole piece of information of value that we can leave behind.
Until you find away to evolve within your lifetime, (none of us are exactly Starchild material) I suggest you refrain from dismissing our natural desires, as they’re the only way to advance mankind and possibly create a society where there’s no longer a need for our “primitive ideals.”
Off the top of my head Utena, Gundam Wing, Yakitate Japan, Cowboy Bebop, Fullmetal Alchemist, Bleach, Tenchi Muyo, Mouse, Ribon no Kishi, and many of the Pokemon movies include female leads whom save a male protagonist. My animu tells me your theory is full of shit.
Ninja337, obviously I’m not saying that in no stories do female characters play an important role. It just so happened that I watched that episode of Reborn! soon before I made that comment so I thought I’d mention it as an example. In all of those, however, females are portrayed differently than males are as a result of their sex. That’s what I take issue with.
CJ, that’s not the only reason: “Aside from that, there are other reasons I’m opposed to sexuality. Namely, I don’t want to let my body’s desire to reproduce control how I treat or think of others.”
Also, people can reproduce without having sex, and if I don’t reproduce I’m sure there will be plenty of other people who will do so instead.
Wow. This is a pretty active thread. You must’ve hit a chord.
Also, if you were confused about my lyrics above, they basically are a parent telling a child that no matter what kind of relationship a child chooses to have when the child grows up, the parent will still love the child forever.
I understand the lyrics, but I don’t see their relevance… >_<
Well if you don’t make female and male characters somewhat dynamic you basically end up with Avatar the Last Airbender, and that would suck.
(Edited by Alex: Please try not to be vulgar here.)
All I’m saying is that I don’t think females should be treated a certain way as a result of the sex they happened to be born with. However, that’s not even the main point of this entry. It’s just a reason I don’t like heterosexuality.
You realize males are generalized in a certain manner as well, aren’t you?
“The same goes for males; their actions are not merely the result of the sex they were born with. That isn’t to say there aren’t males or females who adhere to various stereotypes, but instead that being male or female does not necessarily mean one will act a certain way.”
I completely understand what you mean, but if you think you can trust and like someone enough to where you are the happiest you have ever been, then be sure about it, and do what you think is right.
I agree fully with your arguments, and would like to say that many people have found happiness out of non sexual relationships, sexism is a big part of the worlds problems, what with you know, stereotypes and such.
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I’m out.